You can’t control everything

Day 5 of 90 day challenge

Source: Brian Johnson’s Philosophers Note on Conscious Living ~ Gay Hendricks

“The secret of happiness is knowing that there are some things you can control and some things you cannot”

If we could accept this statement, how many of us could be living happier lives than we currently do?

Whether it’s the weather; the behaviour of a friend or a loved one; the end of a relationship; the loss of a job; or the death of a loved one. There are some things that we just can’t control! No matter how much we try, how much work we put in, there is nothing we can do to change things.

So we have to learn to accept that there will be some things which we can control, and some things which will happen irrespective of what we do, feel or say. And if there’s nothing we can do, then it’s time to stop beating ourselves up about it, and choose to feel happy, whether we like the result or not.

What is the point of feeling unhappy about something which you have no control over? You can’t change it. Wouldn’t you rather choose happiness instead?